The New Zealand media will never tell you, how corrupt the New Zealand family court is. What an incredibly sexist, prejudiced, inhumane, toxic, corrupt, and abusive experience it can be, particularly for a Father. The media will never tell you how much the family court judiciary hate New Zealand men.

The New Zealand family court embraces a culture of intense emotional violence towards men. They embrace sexism and systematic abuse of men. They choose a side and they try to destroy the other person. Usually the male.

I have gone four consecutive summers now, without seeing my Daughter. At all. From her last day of school for the entire Christmas holidays and longer (31 August). I have missed four birthdays and four Christmas’.

I am ‘not allowed’ to play the victim card. But I am definitely a victim so why wouldn’t I? They will attack me again for this and subject me to more oppressive, abusive, corrupt behaviour. They consider my playing the victim card to be extremely antagonistic / offensive. It isn’t. On a scale of emotional harm, weighing up what I was accused of vs what I have experienced, the disparity is enormous. Gigantic. Intensely lopsided. Incredibly biased. Intensely toxic, demeaning, and harmful.

A number of judges at the New Zealand family court have chosen to hate me very intensely. Very personally. They have chosen to try destroy my life, my health, my relationship with my only child. They have tried to be like a cancer in my life.

My Daughter has never accused me of child abuse. She never will. Despite the enormous pressure that she has been put under. This custody battle / ordeal began almost four years ago. There was never any hint of anything to indicate that I had harmed my Daughter, who I loved very much and always will, as she had never (and still hasn’t) said anything to indicate that she had any kind of problem with me. The issues were between her Mother and myself. Some stupid sms messages, which we were both guilty of.

My Daughter is a beautiful person. A very courageous and very resilient young person. A very honest and pure person. I could not be prouder of my Daughter. I love her very much.

My immediate family are a problem for my Daughter. My so called parents and so called sister. The so called lawyer for child Alan Gluestein is a massive problem for my Daughter. He does not act in her best interests at all. Never has. Judge Tony Fitzgerald has chosen to be a massive problem for my Daughter. He is a toxin for my Daughter and myself. They both are.

They have all focused on making things an intensely toxic assault on me and an intense assault on my relationship with the child that I carefully, responsibly, happily, raised as a single Dad in a 50/50 custody share for over 6.5 years.

The family court and others have tried to characterise me as someone, something, that I am not – a dangerous person. A man who is some kind of inexplicable, mysterious, threat to my Daughter. It is absolutely repulsive. Absolutely abhorrent. Intensely abusive, irresponsible, and unprofessional. Slanderous. Completely biased behaviour that is intensely, personally, toxic. They have behaved as though they are on some kind of crusade. Which is very, very, bizarre.

They have completely failed to force me to be, what they wanted to portray me as being.

I am a safe Dad. A safe man for women to be around. A safe person. A fun person. A healthy person. A well spoken person. A decent person and a very loving and committed Dad.

The family court and its staff have tried to destroy all of that and create a new perception of who Joel Tiller is.

It has been an intensely toxic campaign of character assassination and abuse of power. A very toxic judicial bullying campaign. Intense attempted state intimidation and abusive behaviour.

There is an order of costs and a stay order put in place 14 months ago by judge Tony Fitzgerald which is blatantly unjust. My application to vary the parenting order was entirely justifiable. There was nothing remotely vexatious going on. The resulting order of costs and stay order, filed by my Daughter’s mother’s lawyer, is corruption.

There is also an application to discharge the protection order given to my Daughter’s mother in May 2021, which is also stayed (on-hold until the order for costs is paid). That has also been stayed for well over a year now.

The order for costs and stay orders are under appeal in the Court of Appeal on human rights grounds and that application has been on their waiting list for six months.

They have turned supervised custody into a nightmarishly draconian, torturous, intensely sexist, demeaning, extremely restrictive, invasive, ordeal. I have been accused of a handful of ridiculous, unproven, unprovable, misdemeanors during supervised custody.

It is an experience that I can only now describe as being sexist, fascist, bullying behaviour. It is child abuse. It is corruption. It is a very bizarre and painful experience to go through.
It is a massively invasive, suffocatingly controlling, bizarre, unhealthy, abusive, experience.

It is the removal of basic human rights.

It was never necessary in the first place.

They are desperate to discover something that does not exist.

None of this was even remotely justifiable in the first place. So much damage done. For what?

Ask yourself, for what?

Some uncouth sms messages .. (no threats of violence) and an alleged break-in that did not happen, and that the police did not even investigate. Because they knew it did not happen.

The family court then launched a ‘nuclear holocaust’ assault on my life, that has continued for almost four years. My Daughter has been severely abused and victimised during that time. She has lost so much liberty, freedom of association, freedom of expression, and autonomy.

My Daughter has lost a great deal of safety. She has lost significant quality of life. She has been harmed very much by the family court judiciary.

I am Joel Tiller. I am nothing like the person that they keep trying to portray me as being. I am not what they keep trying to bully me into being.